This is not a dating “formula” per se, but I believe that writing it down will help me reflect and make informed choices in dating with greater clarity and efficiency. I’m tired of juggling small talk back and forth for days just to get some basic information down here and there. To put it more simply, a slow drip of chatting might kill my interests even when I’m not intending to. I know it takes time to learn about someone, but there have to be things to consider so that the first and second dates are just to see if there is chemistry when we meet in person.
| Key aspects | What I’m curious about |
| Emotional availability | – Are they looking for something serious? (the most important question fr) – Are they ready for a relationship? – Can they invest time and effort into dating and, later on, building a relationship? – Their energy vibe? – How do they deal with conflicts and stress? |
| Life values & aspirations | – What do they prioritize now in life? – Friend circles – What would life look like when they are in an ideal relationship? |
| Career choice | – Where did they go to school? – What do they do now? – What aspect(s) of the job do they enjoy? – Career direction for the near future? |
| Financial mindset | – Are they financially stable and ready to build a home? – What do they think about the financial contribution as a couple? (*maybe, this is for later) |
| Lifestyle & health | – Do they live alone or with parents/housemates? – Hobbies and interests outside of work? – Their fitness level (current – goals)? – Any lifestyle incompatibilities (smoking, drinking frequently) |
| Family background | – Parents & siblings? – Hometown? Where have they visited? – The dynamics of their family relationship? |
Wow, maybe I should really treat this as a work project. My operational mass planning ass is coming back!
NIAdegushi 